I'm not sure it matters. You need to focus on yourself and not worry about all the little details. When she decided she wants to be with you, all of that stuff will make no difference.
In the mean time: read the books, GAL, no pursuing, do counseling, get in a support group, always agree with everything, don't talk about the R, and realize your chances are slim. Most of us do not make it (I'm moving out this weekend, deal all but signed). Try to be the exception case.
built4speed My Saga "How others deal with the gifts you've given is not your decision, but theirs." - Richard Bach
