Where's LFL?

[Brian_M]

I am very glad to hear that you are still hanging in there. Gosh, I see a lot of familiar names still on here. I don't know if it is good that the support resource still exits or if it is bad that so many still need it.

I am actually doing pretty ok really. Thanks. About a year ago, I started the D, took a new job, and moved across country. After a while and a bit of working with a MC, my W and I agreed to give it one last shot and agreed she would come out too. Though, in hindsight, the biggest change really occured in me. Previously, I had been ashamed to admit that I like and need sex. I had always cited "emotional" and "relationship" bonding type of reasons as to why a SL is important. I was ashamed of desiring sex for some reason.

The big change came in that I quit citing any reason other than, "I am mid 30s guy who likes sex." No more sugar-coating. No more explaining. As simplistic as that sounds, our whole relationship has now completely changed. She treats me with a respect I have never seen before. Best of all, we get along, ML about twice a week, and are enjoying living with each other maybe for the first time.

Don't get me wong. This M still has a ways to go. Though, I can happily work with this.

Any way, I thought I would drop by, see who is still around, and maybe try to help a few people with an outsider's perspective.