so the w came by and we talked. Or I guess with the amount of time I would call it a chat. Probably lasted a total of 25 minutes, and she is obviously confused and upset.
Well she came in had a little chit chat, and then she broke in with how she is so confused and her whole life is in shambles. She said she has made new friends but they don’t understand or care, they are all pretty young, never married and she feels more experienced relationship wise and old. Said her family has pretty much quit listening and doesn’t want a lot to do with the whole divorce. She mentioned that at the family bbq yesterday, she was taking advice from her step sis, who had been through two divorces. She told w, that you can forget him being nice like he is, once you file you better don the bullet proof vest, because it only goes south. Ya great person to take advice from. She has cheated on both her husbands, and this last time everyone says it’s a mistake. Not hard to see, family witnessed a huge blow out with her new man calling her a witch with the b. last guy was an amazing guy, great father, she is a self sabotager.
I reassured her that I would be her friend and that I was here for her. She asked how the changes were going. Said she noticed again, and she said she thinks they are sticking, based off what I said last time. I told her that I’m finding out who I am and learning a lot.
She then started saying she was just too confused, and she didn’t think she could her son and me like she is doing, but the only way to stop it is to file for divorce. She then went on saying that her childhood was taken from her, her parents d ruined her, that she has treated herself horrible and I screwed her too.
W then said she wants to be here, but she just doesn’t know how to make it happen in her mind. I just supported and kept my mouth shut, she said she feels like the only person her for her now is me, but she can’t rely on me. She said she needs more space and time.
Then she called it quits and said she was going home to sleep. Wanted her to stay, pursued, dumb, but I told her she could hang out and we could stop talking about it. She said she couldn’t she had to sleep.
Another odd thing happened last night. I found some bottle caps in my backyard today, sort of odd. But the lady down the street, hadn’t met her yet, came by. She heard something going on last night around 2am, and there was a white Mercedes parked down the street, but these guys were in my backyard she said. I found the gate open today as well. As soon as she approached the car the all took off. The only thing I can think is some idiots looking for easy theft items. Just odd after the picture taker, also a nice car.
dlt1,
thanks, never lost my cool. if i don't drink i actually have no problem with that. only when i drink. hmmm, maybe a pattern.
well good night all, i love her, i have to tell someone. she is a princess and i cried after she left. not for myself, the selfpity is leaving, but for her. she is so confused and hurt and i'm such a big part of that. seems like her whole world is coming down on her at once, all i want to do is help.
