Waltzing again -one decision at a time!

[Yoyowife]

Hey Mattie,
I'm reading a book called "Fair Share Divorce for Women" by Kathleen Miller, a certified financial planner. I think it might be something you are interested in. I haven't read a whole lot of it yet because I've been out of town, but here are a couple of things I think we can all agree on what she has to say.

"My experience show that most women urgently need divorce advice. Many women dislike confrontation, shy away from conflict, and traditionally have taken a backseat to men with regards to money management. After the legal complexities and emotional nasties have been exhausted, money is what divorce is all about.

Money issues are critical when you go through the divorce process. If you ignore them, you will suffer financially. When divorce is over, regrets won't provided solace for the financial assets you've lost.

Trusting that the legal process will take care of you is the worst assumption you can make.

In some cases, the departing spouse has been carefully developing a plan designed to his intentions. Shock is a powerful weapon in manipulating an unsuspecting partner. In other cases, women overlook or underestimate the signs of impending trouble, naively hoping things will improve.

In my twenty-five years of experience dealing with divorce cases, I have come to live by the motto Trust, but verify."

I think this book could also be helpful to men.