yes, I'm very curious how trying to initiate some hot ML would work. Would this be different for you? I'm thinking yes. I'm very glad OT mentioned it, and I really think you should at least try it. If he turns you down, who cares? don't worry about it, it's just his mood/problem, not you. Remember Michelle mentions something like that in one of the books (might be the one about lack of sex in the M) that I think she was talking about herself, but saying she walked in the bedroom being provocative and trying to initiate and the H wasn't "interested" and she left still acting "sexy", sayin "guess your just gonna miss out..."
Since your noticing these cycles, and you've decided he's in #2... then figure out what you normally act/do during this and do something completely different. Obviously the cycle is not ending and you need to do something different to make it stop. I think the ML can be that. It's kinda like rewarding him for stepping away from her, and it would also take his mind off her as well if your all over him.
also, WHY are you deciding for him that he's not in the mood? What is he doing that is giving you these hints?
I know that for a guy to feel loved, having sex is a big part of that. It gives them an intimacy when they have sex. For us, we usually need the intimacy first. Who knows, maybe your H is being down because he wishes you would initiate. I mean, OW is this flirty all up in your face kinda girl, so maybe he's looking for that in you too? who knows. I think it's worth it to try it and see what happens. I wouldn't give up on 1 try though.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
