HW, that is part of a list. The part I could write in the time I had earlier today.
Some of the things relate to the scarcity of affection and resources from FOO and some of the tight situations as far as money and friendships I have or had in the past and present. What I have now is not what I want but better than what I have had in some past times.
I am going to a series of John C. Maxwell "Developing the Leader Within You" presentations-discussions. I hope to improve/change on some things so some of the NG traits.
Another thought I have been getting used to/dealing with, is BB has her preferences/differences, always had them, maybe put them aside for many years and now is making up for lost time in her mind.
This kind of goes along the line, what I want isn't what she wants. How to work with a R when people have different expectations.
When we were dating, I saw some red flags, mostly differences in lifestyle expectation, and we broke up for 5 months. There was still a strong chemical attraction so we got back together, and M 6 months later in 1968.
Earlu in the M when most things were going according to what is considered normal in new and growing families, most differences were minor. Throw in some medical/financial problems, well look out. For a long time those differences were not a problem but came out, some in 1981 and many more in 1986, and now those differences are causing a disconnect.
