I should be happy...but I'm not

[forward]

PS: Start with spa? if she starts to pamper herself physically she may just decide to change her hair, makeup, etc..

If you buy her new clothes and tell her you'd like to see her in them, she might take it as flattering. Deal with her where she is and continue to flatter her when she looks good; she'll respond.

If she is from a family where the mothers sacrifice everyting for kids, she might be unwilling to spend the money on herself. That is how I was. When H left, I realized I spent too much on him and not on myself.

Now I have an entirely new wardrobe, got my hair cut, and am seriously contemplating some skin treatments, mmh. Definitely all about ME - at least for a while.

Am also thinking that H is on the list of contenders for a change for me.....