Well there are two kinds of separation (1)a step toward divorce and 2)a clear message that the marriage has a significant issue that needs resolved) and at the time I was only aware of the kind of separation that pretty much meant divorce. And I did NOT want to divorce my husband for his actions. I did want him to understand my feelings and why I was hurt by his withdrawal from me. We had had 5 very good years of marriage and I was confused by his behavior. Since he has spent the last 2 years trying to figure himself out after hitting "rock bottom" I have to conclude that the separation wouldn't have quite worked anyway...



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus