Sounds like you need to set some boundaries. If she can say whether you can come into a room when she's in it with the kids, then you can set the same conditions. DB'ing doesn't mean you have to take cr*ap from your WAW ... still need to be assertive, without being combative.
Hope tomorrow is better. Maybe you should lock the bathroom door in future. Sheesh! Whose being 'abusive' now?
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim