Somewhere, on one of these other threads, I was reading someone's advice (was it JenJam?) to the effect that it was the casual, light little exchanges that helped her marriage along--not the big, serious R talk.
Also, are you sure that W IS happy with the roommate sitch?
When you do the alpha, wild, primitive, Neanderthal man kind of thing--while clad only in Man Panties--make sure you get in some howling at the moon---and maybe you could "mark" some of the furniture. W will think that something went wrong during surgery.
