What other way would there be to have a good relationship???
That was your 2BX's problem - he couldn't play fair and have fun!
Right and my problem was that I tolerated it. So, for me it is important to work on my intolerance muscle - lol . Probably that is why I am not eager to jump into any sort of LTR. I actually have this kind of sick desire that one of the guys I date will break one of the rules in that book LP made me read so I can be like "Sorry. Foul play. Next!" However, they're all pretty gentlemanly so far so mostly I just concentrate on having fun.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver