Remember, you can't talk, reason, argue or convince you wife to move forward in the relationship.
I suggest as you recover, that you read about being an alpha male, and start small experiments at rebuidling attraction.
Better to have conversations that build intimacy than to have the R talk.
You can ask questions, listen, validate and don't judge.
Questions:
"Where would you like to be 5 years from now?"
"Are there any dreams that you have put on hold, why?"
"If you were stuck on a desert island, what 3 things would you want to have with you?"
"When, in your life, have you felt the most alive? Why?"
"Here are some interesting things I'm learning about myself....what do you think?"
"What do you think are my strengths and weaknesses?" (MAN THIS TAKES LOTS OF COURAGE)
If you MUST talk about the relationship, then ask, rather casually, over a glass of wine, "Hey, where are we?". Listen. Find out how she FEELS. Listen, validate her feelings, don't judge.
