Gone Dancin's Dilemma, 3

[Nomopo]

Sorry. BB typo. GPI was supposed to be you. On the doubts, I think you need to say to her (without asking for, expecting or even wanting a response during the last stand talk) if you have any doubts about the D then why not wait a few months. A D is a huge decision. There is a lot at stake for me, you and our kids. I would like for you to be sure about what we are doing. You can always push it through later if you're 100% sure, but don't push it through now if you're not.

That's what I mean by focusing on any doubt about D she may have. It doesn't matter why she has any doubt. If she doesn't, well you're out of luck for a delay. But if she does, make her focus on why D now with doubt.

Also, thinking about why is not a waste for you. You may be able to help her recognize doubt if she hasn't. But think of it as throwing out possibilities for why instead of having to identify it for sure by yourself in advance. Of course, start with the most or more likely candidates.

Does that help?

Nomo