HW So Lou - are you wanting to start a whole new thread based just on this one question? YIKES!! Yes I did because it is important to many people here and I didn't want to hi-jack your thread.
the Why have you chosen to stay so long needs to be followed up with some question similar to "What does your spouse provide/bring to the R" that someone asked before, but I just wanted to keep the one topic in focus right now.
So maybe this thread also could be called "Doubts/concerns/questions I have about me."
Like Lill, I think your ST sounds great and what he asked is something each one of the "hopers and hangers on to" might look at, to understand our self better. I believe knowledge can be gained from someone else’s experiences, and from books. The ST's question was very appropriate and I personally wondered what kept you with Mr. HW through 2 As and him spending that amount of $$$$$ on the escort when a trip to Alaska would have been so much better for both of you.
I would have expected BB to dump me if I did those things. I think I would have dumped her. Many people have ended their M for a 1/10 of similar reasons. BTW, I am not being critical or suggesting you do anything.
I know a little about your and Mr. HW’s FOO. About his accident. You said you were in an accident too, I think. Well about the chiropractor visits. I know a little (very little) about your recent employment endeavors but could be wrong. I know when I went to college, I put a big part of my personal life on hold, had to do more holding when I went to work again. Did still more holding when I started my business. Then MIL broke the head of femur (broken hip). Next an uncle died at the age of 103.
You know, some times work and things get in the way of life and thought, something like that happened in your M. Maybe or maybe not, reasons to continue in a relationship lacking some important things. Sometimes there are peroids in a person’s or a couple’s life when it seem best to just go with the flow.
