Yeah see one of the reasons he left was because I wasn't supportive enough. So I want to be there but on the other hand it's like he moved out because I wasn't there and he's still leaning on me. Kinda like having his cake and eating it too. Best of both worlds.
Who am I kidding I'm not going anywhere and I want to be there for him. I think he just gets confused by it because of the reason he left and then finds himself still doing it. And that's when he starts backing off again. Because to him this isn't what's supposed to be happening.
If any of that made sense....
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
It probably makes sense to him. Keeps finding himself on the fence with you doing what he says you don't do. He is probably trying to find his new way, but realizing that you are there for him. Backs away because it just confuses him. That could be good for you.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
He says I left because I didn't feel like you were there for me. I'm not supposed to be leaning on you. Mixed signals don't you think.
I just think he's confused and scared. I mean he told me last night he didn't want to open himself up again because it's too painful. The pain he feels now he knows what to expect but if he opens up again he doesn't know when where or how he'll get hurt again. It sucked to hear he doesn't trust me. Time will tell if he can get over it.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
I just think he's confused and scared. I mean he told me last night he didn't want to open himself up again because it's too painful. The pain he feels now he knows what to expect but if he opens up again he doesn't know when where or how he'll get hurt again. It sucked to hear he doesn't trust me. Time will tell if he can get over it.
Are our spouses actually twin brother and sister. I have heard word for word the same thing
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
You almost have to wonder if they investigate all this before hand so they know what to say and do.
I think there is a super secret "leave your spouse" club somewhere.
H-36 W-38 Married 14yrs Together 17 2 Children (D12, S15) 9/20/05 - Seperated 4/23/07 - Dbomb dropped 4/25/07 - I Love you, not in love "If it's not hard, it's not worth fighting for."
