I totally understand the "losing yourself" bit. I think that's the basis of DB'ing is getting *US* *OURSELVES* back and then we will be ok no matter what happens and be a better person for it and most likely our spouse will like it better too -- that's who they fell in love w/ after all. Back before we all got married, we could have lived w/o spouse, but after awhile, that's not necessarily the case anymore.

Don't turn into a Don Juan now, Sir \:\)

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10