Didn’t mean it that way. I am not playing the hurt puppy. You kept telling me that I need to come to the point that I need to accept what ever happens happens. I think I am there. This book "journey" really has me thinking. I am just reading it now but plan on reading it again and doing the exercises in it later. When I said that I needed to be more demanding maybe that was too strong of a word. Maybe "take charge" might be better. I used to always "ask" for a kiss before bed. (Before detaching). That is not what I wanted to do I wanted a kiss. So now it will be more like just go kiss her or say “give me a kiss". When I talked about being a "jerk" I didn't mean treat her like sh@t. But things like not ALWAYS going out of my way to make things easier for her. Putting off my pleasures so she won't be hassled. I don't want to go back to the way we were. I somehow lost myself the last 10 years. I am finding myself again. I was too submissive. Even the area of sex. I would suggest something diferant, she would say no and I would leave it at that. For instants PICTURES she always said no but........ You know the rest of the story. I always let her have her way. I might have painted something blue because I like blue she would say it looks better green I would repaint it green. Wait I like blue. I can see how she gets bored. I was a step ford husband. I did everything. For her and didn't think about what I wanted. I was independent before we met but I changed. I am not going to do anything drastic until after I re read this book. (I’m not even through it once yet) and do the exercises. I feel the balance of power is changing. I think she may feel it too. She needs to decide what she wants because I know what I want. Funny but when we do have our talk I am going to tell her that I finely understand the phrase I LOVE YOU BUT I AM NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU.
Funny thing this morning checking my e-mail I had mail from my OP, you and another female here. NO EA’s but is was nice being the center of attention.
WELL I'M BACK
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
