Theo: I just think that his W is sitting pretty right now and has absolutely NO REASON to do anything as far as changing anything from the way they are living right now.

I really think he needs to decide if he can live indefinitely like this or not. She is happy as a clam right now. She is married, but is not being expected to act like a W. I understand the no R talk theory, but when one person has no reason to change and has not indicated whether they want to or will ever and the other person is now seemingly along for the ride (as I feel Husband kind of is), somebody needs to make some sort of move to move things forward.

They have had no talks of anything except for W saying she doesn't want a divorce, but she doesn't know what she wants. In essence, he is allowing her to just drift along in a marriage that is not a marriage and she has no reason to change that.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10