Cemar while I don't know if my wife french kisses me because she really truly wants to, but we do make out like teenagers quite often now.
She also has taken to initiating, and is becoming more comfortable with oral sex.
My contributions to the situation were many some by being non direct about my needs I avoided the possibility of rejection and when I was rejected I was very pissy. When my wife did offer me "table scraps" I took them because I was unwilling to ask for the real thing.
Allot of what I suffered from was what could be described as fusion. My emotional hose was plugged into her approval, if she didn't want to suck my dick then she must not love. If she did not want to suck my dick or french kiss me then it was proof that I wasn't good enough.
I see you in much the same light as I did except you seem so stuck on having it the way it was. If you honestly look back on the beginning of your relationship can you say that the sex you were having was truly intimate or was it just hot monkey sex.
You're starving yourself because you won't see all the things that you wife does do that shows that she loves and cares for you just because she doesn't do it in your love language.
Language is about communication and part of communication is listening. Your not listening to the way your wife does love you, maybe if you did you could see that the world is an abundant place and there is allot of love for you.
I think one of the mistakes that HD people get themselves into trouble with is that they start to make sex and sexual approval more and more important. So that when they are dealing with their LD partner it becomes heavier and heavier. HD people can become like trolls stopping around demanding that the princess (or prince) " give them your golden treasure ".
Cemar I really think you should read the book by Dr.Glover and do the exercises in his book.
I've tried to help you as much as I can, but I'm done. good luck.
