Thanks for the replies and support. I am continuing to let her initiate contact, and have in fact made a point of not answering the phone and just communicating by e-mail instead. I've made them short, factual and without any "love" or "sincerely" or "yours" at the end.
What I really wanted feedback on, but forgot to ask since my first post was so long, is how much to "give" or "push" on the D issue. She wants "her" stuff out of the house, I've said I don't think she any right to "our" stuff, that she can have anything that was hers before the M. [I'm a little soft on that, I bought her a sewing machine a few years back that I let her take, and books that she clearly bought for her studies. I guess I just feel esp. put down when she says her life was on hold. Through my job, that she wanted me to get, she got over 10,000 off her graduate education last year alone! And her life has been on HOLD?!?!
I definitely still don't want a divorce, but she resents me "dragging my heels". In point of fact, I've been completely reactive in a timely fashion to any request she has made, but I think she means I should be contacting her to split stuff up.
I know I should be her "friend", but do I give in on every request for marital property just to keep her happy?
