It's going to be a bumpy ride

[Dom R]

no way. you are better off than most people here dealing with a WAS.
for the moment, anwyays.

he's complaining about moving out, but RIGHT NOW, he's still living at home
you're still being physically intimate
you're still on pretty much "friendly" terms

Maybe you need to quit bringing up "leaving" issues, and just focus on quietly, making staying pleasant.

In other words, figuring out what he's looking for, and doing it, but WITHOUT saying things like

"what would make you stay?"
"what do you want from me????"
"look, arent I so much better now?!"

Right now, he's on the edge of leaving. he's "investigating" it. But, unless he has another woman, he still isnt fully commited to it i'm guessing.
Yeah, you had a big blowup, which pushed him from "want someone to talk me out of it", to "ok, i'm getting out of here" mode.
But, until he actually signs a lease on someplace... he coudl still mellow out and change his mind.

here's my non-professional suggestion:
Do anything and everything you can, for ONE WEEK, not to fight.
About ANYTHING.
Have zero arguments, zero blowups, zero demands... just aim for 1 week of "perfect wife", even though he is very far from a perfect husband.
That doesnt mean you have to AGREE with everything he says. just dont contradict or argue about it. Acknowlege his control over himself if you must make a reply. but no arguing.
eg:
"I'm moving out soon" => "I understand you plan to move out soon".

enjoy any "booty calls" try to make it emotionally intimate as you can, without forcing it. non-verbally invite, rather than demand, ya know?


Then, at the END of 7 days, take inventory and see where things are. Post here about how things are in 7 days, and lets see what sounds good to do then.


PS: no, you wont be able to counter anything when he "starts to move back". that will kill any progress you have made.
you gotta wait until he is FULLY COMMITTED to you again.