Thanks for the kind words and the advice. It is clear that at this point, the best thing for me to do is to begin to detach. I need to start living for myself, rather than doing everything to try and please her. I think this may be one of those easier said than done things, but it has to start sometime.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07