Trying to make it work

[soul_mate]

You are right I am letting her rule the roost and the communication thing is still not working. I have communicated what I want with her on several occasions and nothing is done about it. I don't know if I am communicating the right way or not, but I have told her what I don't like about our marriage. Here are some of her responses she is doing the best she can, still hurt over my past neglect, I am tired from work all day, just want to relax, don't want to talk about things let just do it, not feeling well, etc. She is obviously still hurt over the past which makes it very difficult to work on our marriage. Her feeling is like this is all I have to offer take it or leave it.

Everytime we do spend time together we both have fun and enjoy each other, which helps our marriage. The problem is we don't do nearly enough of it.