He does want the freedom to have sex w/others, if he wants. But says that is NOT why he is leaving. (And, honestly, I don't really see how it could be why he is leaving given the condition of our sex life.)
Additionally, looking at all these other situations (here in the forums) I should feel lucky that there is no OW. And many people out there are still fighting for their marriage even though there is amother person in the picture. And who hasn't read about a marriage that was reborn even after infedility?? So, it makes it difficult for me to draw a line in the sand, when in my heart of hearts, I don't necessarily believe it would mean "the end".
Yes, I think that the only point where I will have leverage is if he starts to move back towards me and then I can put the kibosh on bar hopping.
Aw, who knows..I might end up having so much fun going and doing my own thing that I won't want to deal with his flakiness.
He is just so different from a lot of the WAS I read about here. It scares me. It makes me think that he is so far along in the process that he has reached 'acceptance'.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
