I've been thinking a little bit more about the W/weight dilemma...in the past I often complained so that H would validate what I wanted to hear. "I'm feeling fat" usually received (from a man who's not stupid) "No you're not". Of course that never meant as much to me as an un-prompted "Baby, you look hot". KWIM?
If W is mentioning it, she's feeling insecure about it. Perhaps what she needs to hear, in addition to un-prompted affirmations, is: "Hon, I'm sorry you feel like you're backsliding...is there anything you'd like me to do to support you in getting to a place where you feel more on top of this?"
