DLT1,
Just read one of NOMOPO's threads, and he suggested the following link. PRESERVE has outlined Dbing perfectly, and answers most of the questions that you, and all of us, have asked.
Read it, and follow it to the letter every single day.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=692727&Board=9&page=0

Me 31
W 28
D 2 1/2
Together 8 years, Friends for 13 years
S Bomb fathers day 2007
Found out about EA on 07/29/07
Working on me!!!