I know, I know...snooping is bad....but I did it..

[mkultra]

Textbook. He is sayimg the same stuff they all say. Where do they get this rhetoric? Do NOT panic. There are other ways to fight for your marriage but DO NOT panic. You do not want that panic to be imprinted on his brain! Instead of texting him a question or threat, fight the impulse and do not text anything. If you must, text a joke or sport score, but even that might look desperate. Stay friendly and happy and independent but let him know you are glad he is in your life. It sucks to treat your own husband like a guy you want to date, let me tell ya. About the OW who is a friend with a boyfriend and is lesbian, it does not matter. He SHOULD be spending time with you but he is trying to detach and form new friendships that will not judge him. My H is emotionally attached to another straight man who has been kicked out oh his own home. Both men text constantly at all hours. It sickens me. This guy is bottem of the barrel but he does not judge my H, he sympathizes so I guess I need to do that instead of using guilt.