You may be surprised at how well your kids will do. Mine have done VERY well. Sure they wish that our family was "intact" but since I have stood on my head to be cordial and respectful to their Dad and facilitate visitation no matter what the issues were between us - they have done fine. No one started failing in school, becoming promiscuous, doing drugs, becoming social misfits or basket cases of any sort. They have some lingering sadness sometimes. Well, all of us have some lingering sadnesses to learn to handle. They will be ok and so will you.