I am amazed at the power of this network. Thanks tiredandlost and Rob for your support and validation. She does have doubts. I know her soooo well. I heard it in her voice this morning. Not what she said, but how she said it. Anybody reading this would know what I mean.
To answer your question, she is a good mother. She had the affair because she does not have an emotional connection to me. We have been drifting for a few years, with both of us contributing to the demise of the M.
I told her that everybody has a list in their head of people they know. If she were to sort her list by "RESPECT" I would be at the very bottom. She has ZERO respect for me.
I don't have enough friends that I can confide in. Not sure it would matter anyway, because I promised her I would not tell anybody about the OM. I intend to keep my word, at least for the indefinite future. I am convinced that we will fix this, and I don't want her reputation soiled.
Regardless, I am joining a men's group at church this week in order to extend my network. Gotta run, taking the kids out..
