just a question... what kind of mother is she to the kids? Has she ever told you why she had the A with OM? I think what your doing is great. Not asking her about her whereabouts etc. Keep her wondering... So did you say she is "still" with the OM? If she is, that is extremely cruel on her part. and Im sure this is doing a number on the kids.
Do you have friends outside of your marriage? If so, you should definately make an effort to go out with them, even if it is just for a drink or dinner. I think being with other people that care about you helps you along in the fight to save your M. My one gf is my rock a lot of the time. When I get really depressed I talk to her and she is there for me, even if its just to listen. Everybody needs someone to talk to.
She seems to me to be a very confused person. Do you think she is willing for a deep discussion with you? As far as other people making comments about how your acting.. thats a bunch of bull&*&*. Unless you've walked a mile in someone shoes, knowone can say how they would act if they were hurt by the person they loved to this degree. Didn't know they all had degrees in the area of marriage
Blessings~
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