Sol, don't get me wrong, moving on is a great idea! What it means is you are choosing to detach yourself from your W's insanity and build your life based on your own needs. Do it. One of the big drawbacks for you, IMHO, is that you base so much on her actions versus your own choices. Be yourself Sol, re-build and be happy. If she wants in then let her earn it, that is no longer your priority...that is good stuff! Now, a word of caution, stay away from women for a while, even casual dating. It is very confusing and you are in no shape to make good decisions at this point. It's so understandable that you would want to feel desired when you've had your self esteem demeaned by the one you've loved for so many years. So enjoy pretty smiles, recognize the flirting, feel good about it but wait for a while. Trust me, I know on this one!
