I am still trying to understand you and what you want (and by that I mean the subconscious desire). Your most recent post on the "sexless marriage" thread gets back to your demanding way of writing. It seems odd that someone can write about something so lovely as affection with such a hard, bitter and confining tone. There is so much anger and animosity that comes through when you write about sex, desire and your wife that it is hard to imagine that you have any kind of loving feelings toward your wife.
1) Is there anything nice that you can say about your wife? Do you ever have anything nice to say directly to her? 2) Does your wife do anything loving or caring for you? Does she ever give you a compliment? 3) If your religion would suddenly say "divorce for any reason is perfectly acceptable," would you be filing for divorce tomorrow morning without one look over your shoulder? 4) Bottom-line are YOU willing to work to get the relationship you want or do you see it as solely your wife's responsibility to do the work?
I had written a response to your post with the answers and list but after your post yesterday and without the above answers I am not sure it is worthwhile to post. If you answer all the questions above AND still want to pursue a discussion, let me know and I will post my response.
FWIW - Martelo was trying to tell you that letting GO of some wants can actually be a positive step in the right OVERALL direction. To me you seem like the monkey who puts his hand in the coconut and won't let go of the trinket. Do you know that story??
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
