What are you doing up now? I have thought the same thing. Detaching is good but there needs to come a time when you need to start connecting again. I was also thinking maybe this hernia thing was the best thing that could have happened. I know she has been looking on the web about it. Maybe she is reading about all of the BAD things that could happen and it may be dawning on her that she could lose me. (I know nothing is going to go wrong). But she did tell me about someone that was about my age that went in for hip surgery and ended up having a heart attack on the operation table and died. Also when I went to bed last night she brought my lap top into the living room saying she wanted to make sure the virus it caught was taken care of. I have short cuts to my "saving my marriage" e-books. On the desk top. Like I said yesterday she did make a comment about them so she knows they are there. Maybe curiosity got the best of her and she may have done a little reading last night. I am going to have a sit down with her when I get better. I know I fear the outcome but I am one that normally has no problem facing my fears. But for some reason I have always avoided confrontation with her. During my thrust for knowledge somewhere I read about thinking back on relationships. This psychologist asked this woman about her past relationships. He asked her if she had any with guys that treated her really nice she said yes but they didn't last very long. He asked her if she had any with guys that were jerks. She said yes in fact her last one lasted 2 years. Making a long story short what he was trying to get across was that she felt too comfortable with the "good guys" there was no challenge. The "bad boys" she didn't know what to expect so she was in constant fear of losing them. One of our past conversations between my W and me my trust in her was brought up. SHE said I trusted her too much. I'm not saying I should become a total jerk but maybe I need to become a little more demanding. Push more for what I WANT.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
