I could imagine my W saying most of that stuff at some stage over the last year you have covered that mindset so well.
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When my wife was still living with me and OM R was going well she would have said all those things and more. I believe if I tried to confront her with anything like your letter I would still get a good dose of the above. You know my sitch and I have learned that leaving it alone and detaching is the right thing. Do you know the best thing I said to my W , the one thing that I think has had the most effect?
I went to her Apartment on a flimsy excuse and took up a couple of beers. I offered her a drink and we sat down . In amongst the small talk I said something along these lines. ( the exact words escape me)
" W, I realy do understand why you needed to do this and its OK you know , and I am OK with it"
I left it at that.
She knows I think it was a bad idea , she knows it hurt me and the kids , she has seen all that stuff .
If you think your W has not heard you in the past , just try changing your mind on something and see how fast she remembers exactly what you said! LOL.
I know you are worried about the D , but thats a train you may not be able to stop for now. Its not the end , There are plenty of post D success stories out there.
