I have you know the nurses may be soooo amazed they will end up calling the Enquire news. Feel kind of sorry for their husbands when they get home. They may never be satisfied again once they have something to compare.
And I am not supposed to laugh. It hurts so knock it off. Plus I am trying to write my W a next to final letter and now you got me thinking about sex again...Then agian that is all I have been doing the last 2 years is thinking about it.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I said I am writing it. I didn’t say I was going to send it. I have already written several letters that went no where. No I can not send it yet. I am afraid of what she may say. But I sadly feel we are just acting Nice. Part of me wants to believe I am winning her back. But the other part says no. My W doses not like to talk R. She has always been uncomfortable with it. But IF we are going to get back together that is going to have to change. I prefer her to let me know how she feels instead of her keeping things to herself. I am not going to do anything until after my surgury
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
My W wears her Wedding rings when she goes out. But when she gets home she takes them off. She has always done this. Said they sometimes hurt her fingers and the diamond gets caught on stuff.
What I am getting to is she still does wear them when she leaves the house. Is this a good sign? It also got me thinking. I know it will make be depressed again but I need to go look at "the pictures". Was she wearing he ring with the OM?
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
That's how I wear my ring. I take it off when I get home. Honestly, I wouldn't look at the pictures! I'm a major snoop--I've read H's love letters--but pictures are even more hurtful. Whether the ring was on or off when the pictures were taken may tell you nothing really about how she felt about you then, and how she feels about you now.
Yes, and she wouldn't put it on if it didn't mean something. She wears her ring--she presents herself as a married woman. Even if she won't talk relationship talk with you, she's still making a statement about who she is and where she wants to be--in my opinion.
Delia, I need to go to bed but I had to come back and tell ya all something. I called my mom today to tell her I may need a ride to the surgery. Anyway on my way to bed I told my wife this and she said she was planning on taking me. She does not get paid if she does not go to work so this is no little thing. I told her I would like her to be there I said I know it's a simple thing but I am a little scared.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
That was good what you said to your W. I'm glad she's going to be there for you. Maybe she needs to know that you do want & need her. Since you've had no R talk, who knows what she's thinking that you're thinking, etc., you know?
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
What are you doing up now? I have thought the same thing. Detaching is good but there needs to come a time when you need to start connecting again. I was also thinking maybe this hernia thing was the best thing that could have happened. I know she has been looking on the web about it. Maybe she is reading about all of the BAD things that could happen and it may be dawning on her that she could lose me. (I know nothing is going to go wrong). But she did tell me about someone that was about my age that went in for hip surgery and ended up having a heart attack on the operation table and died. Also when I went to bed last night she brought my lap top into the living room saying she wanted to make sure the virus it caught was taken care of. I have short cuts to my "saving my marriage" e-books. On the desk top. Like I said yesterday she did make a comment about them so she knows they are there. Maybe curiosity got the best of her and she may have done a little reading last night. I am going to have a sit down with her when I get better. I know I fear the outcome but I am one that normally has no problem facing my fears. But for some reason I have always avoided confrontation with her. During my thrust for knowledge somewhere I read about thinking back on relationships. This psychologist asked this woman about her past relationships. He asked her if she had any with guys that treated her really nice she said yes but they didn't last very long. He asked her if she had any with guys that were jerks. She said yes in fact her last one lasted 2 years. Making a long story short what he was trying to get across was that she felt too comfortable with the "good guys" there was no challenge. The "bad boys" she didn't know what to expect so she was in constant fear of losing them. One of our past conversations between my W and me my trust in her was brought up. SHE said I trusted her too much. I'm not saying I should become a total jerk but maybe I need to become a little more demanding. Push more for what I WANT.
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
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