Honestly right now I just feel kinda numb. I'm not giving up but this is the first time I've felt like it. You're right he's processing alot right now. I don't want to see his grandma die but I think she's ready. I really don't know that she will but if she doesn't she won't be the same. It's just all very sad. And I hate that instead of being there for each other we're across town grieving.
Though I gotta ask what positve parts you're seeing?
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Don't take what I am doing as giving up, I am just letting go and not worrying. I know if it was my grandparent or parent, the last thing I would be thinking about is my relationship. You are across town and grieving seperatly because of the circumstances you are presently in, him coming back and opening up for the wrong circumstances would not help in the long run. It will have to be at his time and way.
Positives are that you are going with him to the hospital, you did talk some, even if he is saying he shouldn't, well he is so that is something. Your not going to find a BIG positive right now so go for those small ones.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Oh I know you aren't giving up. Neither am I but to be honest there for a couple minutes tonight I felt like it. Your right I don't want him coming back just because of his grandma's situation. I want him back because he wants to be. Just wonder if that'll ever happen.
Ah but this could all just be a front for his grandma. Yeah he's talking be it not nice. Small steps I know. Boy I sound very pesimistic. I'm supposed to be the optimist of the 2 of us. Need to hit myself with a 2x4.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
You are right, you want him to come back because he wants to be back, not because of circumstances or anything else. It has to be for his reasons for it to work. Just keep biding your time, you will be just fine.
Nah, I tried hitting myself with a 2x4, for some reason you just don't hit yourself hard enough.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Yeah and right now he doesn't sound like he has reasons. Yeah he told me tonight I'm the strong one I'll get thru this and be just fine. ARRRRGGGGGG. I don't want to be strong.
Maybe I should let him hit me.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Yeah and right now he doesn't sound like he has reasons. Yeah he told me tonight I'm the strong one I'll get thru this and be just fine. ARRRRGGGGGG. I don't want to be strong.
He doesn't, he just doesn't know it. You have to be the strong one, if not for you or your husband, for your kids.
Originally Posted By: sadhearted
Maybe I should let him hit me.
Now that is an idea. Then you can have him arrested then you would know where he is at all the time. He would then really be lonely(hopefully) and really what he is missing at home.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Yeah I'll be the strong one. I seem to always be the strong one. Sometimes it'd be nice to take a break.
Take a break here and there, won't hurt anything.
Originally Posted By: sadhearted
LOL Yeah I can see me throwing him in jail bringing him back. My mom works for the police so I may have some pull.
See, positive thoughts, maybe misplaced, but positive.
Originally Posted By: sadhearted
Oh he bought me a coke too. When I met him and he got into the van he handed me a coke.... That was nice of him. Looky there I made a positive.
Okay, not to rain on this positive, but I must ask. Was it cold and not shaken up. If so positive, if not you should of aimed it at him when it exploded.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Well I'd have to say tonight is a break. I don't feel the least bit strong at the moment. After I got back from the hospital I called my SIL to tell her (she lives out of town) and I had her crying. She said something about coming up after her vacation which is end of next week for I don't know how long. All I thought was I hope it's not to late by then. Course maybe his grandma will come out of this okay but she doesn't want to live. She's had a good long life and she's ready to go.
LOL yeah probably misplaced.
Yep it was cold and not shaken. Though covering him in coke might have been fun. Course then I would have had it all over my seat....
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Well I'd have to say tonight is a break. I don't feel the least bit strong at the moment. After I got back from the hospital I called my SIL to tell her (she lives out of town) and I had her crying. She said something about coming up after her vacation which is end of next week for I don't know how long. All I thought was I hope it's not to late by then. Course maybe his grandma will come out of this okay but she doesn't want to live. She's had a good long life and she's ready to go.
Well hopefully she is in town before it is to late. Also someone in person for you to hang with and have some fun.
Originally Posted By: sadhearted
Yep it was cold and not shaken. Though covering him in coke might have been fun. Course then I would have had it all over my seat....
Well just think if it got all over you would have had to............. Bad 789, just bad. Stop it.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
and really what he is missing at home.
