Phoenix-I like the analogy too. It goes with a lot of things in life. What you said, about our spouses seeming to think that rules/standards/faithfulness apply to everyone but themselves rings true. It's something that bothers me a lot, but I have to keep reminding myself that we're all individuals with distinctly unique perspectives and I truly have no idea how the world looks to my H, and hope that someday the reality of his responsibilities hit him in a way that opens his eyes to this stumbling block. In the meantime, I'm just focusing on my own 'beam', KWIM? I don't see any other viable solution.
