Being Me, just be careful not to get too wound up with his needs and his depression etc and therefore forgetting about yourself. I did that with my W, she was always so stressed, so pressured, so depressed that I would accept pretty much anything from her and rationalize it away. A caring spouse can get sucked into giving everything and getting nothing in return very easily. Then one day you wake up and realize that this bad patch in your M has now become your everyday life, it's endless! Now, I'm not saying that this is happening or will happen to you but I just thought I'd give you a heads up anyway. So yes, do be empathetic but also remember yourself in the equation too.
