Hmmm, he always says he has no idea how to be married. I will have to go read that thread. He does love me and respects me. He treats me as an equal. We're not one of those couples that always fight, have power struggles, etc. We have a pretty equal distribution of work in our home, make about the same money, have respect for each other's career, talents, etc. Hmmm, I gotta go read that thread.

As for me initiating, etc. The lack of touching, definitely not my persona. I am one of those people who like to hold hands, hug all my friends, am rather touchy feely really. I mean I still hug him and get kisses but passionate kisses, well, they do take two imho. So, I guess I am mirroring his behavior.

Yes, T-level was checked. He was low. He tried it for two months and stopped. Right now he is trying meds for Adult ADD and it seems to be helping his energy and focus however he puts it all into his job.