Moving Forward,......taking baby steps.

[~Sol]

I am closer to finding out if this is over. I have been a "nice guy" to her for too long, survived her affair, outbursts, blaming, and now this separation.

A friend of mine asked me why would I want her back - or why would I still want to be with her? Well, I don't want her back and I don't want to be with her anymore. If her move out wasn't obvious to me, it is now. Even my SS and daughter are telling me that I should marry someone else and forget about my W!!!! MY OWN KIDS!!!!

That says something about my W and the kind of person she is - she is just not good relationship material, neither was I but now I know what I want from a R, and I know what I need to do to make my next one better than I ever hoped for. At least that is my plan.

Today my W told me something that hit home, she said she would never come back, not to the house and surely not to me. A mutual friend tells me to ignore her and continue with what I am doing to keep busy. Well, I am keeping busy and getting ready to move on with my life, but I need to close this chapter, however unfortunate it was for both of us, and go on. I already got my daughter's blessing to find someone else (in good time), and my SS is saying to "dump my W" and go find a hot, smart, and loyal woman that won't cheat. Wouldn't that be something?

I am NOT going to date anytime soon - that time will come and I will know when I can date. I just want to end this the RIGHT way, and not do what my W did and run into someone else's arms.......she is taking more of her things from here, and I am seeing the outcome of our M. It is simply ending, and she will not be leaning on me anymore. I have my atty, I am filing for D but creating a separation agreement (90% of the D). My daughter reminded me again to just find someone else to marry - there is wisdom in her words, and her young innocent mind.

So with this, I want to say thank you to all that have helped me along my journey. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do, or what reality dictated to me, but I am staring reality in the face and accepting what I need to do. This is my life, I want to make it great! I only have one time to be here on Earth, and I don't want to waste a single minute more. I want what a lot of people want - to be happy in life. Any other way to be is not good for the human heart.

I will not be posting as much, but I will stop by and check in on my friends on these boards. God bless everyone on here that is struggling. My heart goes out to all of you.

Thank you.