still going

[BeingMe]

Unfortunately, what your W doesn't realize is that your children are reaping what she is sowing. It's all very well, and good, to teach one's kids to stand up for themselves, but quite another to assume all men are mean. This is what your W is teaching your daughters. She calls what you did emotional abuse, but was it really, or was she such a whimp that she couldn't say anything back until she had someone outside the M to run to? C'mon, I hope she isn't insulting the women who really suffer from emotional/psychological and physical abuse, just to have an excuse to demean you to the kids, and a way of explaining why she is leaving. If I had to think back on my M then I would say, possibly, that my H was emotionally abusive, but in fact, I see him just as an emotional coward. I am not a whimp, so I am quite happy to assert myself, so I think that could've been your W's issues really.

Not that you didn't add to the marital problems, I'm sure (not letting you off the hook, but want you to see things realistically), but abuse is a big word when I am sure she was never under any threat, and probably wouldn't have had any problems if she didn't have her own self esteem issues, and lack of assertiveness.

Just a thought!