When he calls, or tomorrow when he comes by, act exactly the way you did yesterday or last week.
No decisions were made today, no changes required. He might not call tonight because he won't have sorted it out yet. But by tomorrow he will be sorry for his outburst. He already apologized once (before giving the finger to the house), and he may or may not want to apologize again. Most likely he will want to pretend it didn't happen. Let him. He needs to internalize what has changed, and that will take time.
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At some point you can point that out, but not right now. Instead of looking back and pointing fingers, you can talk about how much easier it is to take care of the kids now, and how you can't wait until they're all in school! Talk about how you want to have fun again--not in answer to his request, but for you.
