Me and various other people want to just shake my H. What he perceives as BIG problems are not that big and if he could just let go of the past and try again we could get this right.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
Me and various other people want to just shake my H. What he perceives as BIG problems are not that big and if he could just let go of the past and try again we could get this right.
Oh believe me, I want to also, I know it would work if I could get away with it, but that is the problem. She wouldn't let me get away with it so why bother. We/I had a major problem and I realize that. Now just for her to realize it is another story. I cannot change her mind or way of thinking I will let her do that on her own.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
It strikes me as kind of amazing how when it finally hits you that you really have no control and stop worrying about it how much easier it is to cope during the day. I hope I can continue this journey with this thought process. She actually brought up when I was going to get her a book to read again today, guess I need to at least decide that part and give it to her before she changes her mind.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
No she is not, not sure why with all she has said and done that now she is interested in doing some reading. Unless she is thinking that if she does that I will give her credit for trying, except I will never really know if she did or not. But not worrying. The one thing that I do know for a fact from her talking yesterday and today is she is greatly worried about our son.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
It's good that she's concerned about him. My H has convienced himself that our kids will grow up just fine with no scars from a D. Which I don't know how because he already has one son that he's seeing the effects of D from.
W: 33 H: 37 SS: 14 S: 7 S: 3 married 08/09/97 Seperated 11/02 05/07 H moved back 8/26/07
So much much more relaxing instead of running everything through my mind. My wife has always been concerned about how he is doing for the most part, but like your husband she has been that he will be okay with it either way, maybe she is starting to doubt that part.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
Well it might not help you, but I have my computer set up so I can see the TV at the same time. So if you think I just sit here and read non stop I don't. I am usually playing online poker(free) and watching TV at the same time.
They justify it by lying to themselves, they do not even realize they are lying I don't believe.
M 41 W 33 S8 S17 Bomb 3/11/07 S 3/28/07 New beginning? 8/31/07
