Ok, that does help...I think many of us on here would agree with you that his idea of frequency is on the low end of preference. We have had people on here who have sex a couple of times a week and still consider themselves the HD partner wanting more...when many of us HD people here would kill for that frequency.
So, that leads me to my next question. Have you been with the same counselor this entire time? If so, what progress do you feel you've made if any? If you don't feel you've progressed, it's time to find a new therapist.
My next questions...what type of an upbringing did he have? Any history of abuse? Where his parents physically affectionate in front of him, was sex a taboo subject in his family? Do you know? How open is he emotionally? Does he communicate how he feels to you? Yes, there are reasons I'm asking these questions.
