I think I'd like sex 3-5 times per week, more than 10 minutes, lots of foreplay and multiple O's. I believe that makes me HD. He's happy with 1-2 times per month. Most times I feel its check off sex, you know, took out the trash (check), did the wife (check) kind of sex .
I FEEL he doesn't find me attractive. When asked he says yes he does. He never compliments me, comments on my clothes, looks, etc. In fact, the compliments are so rare that I can remember each one specifically. And yes, there are no (P)DA's--public or private. He's trying to change that but its a huge effort for him and he admits that.
