Why do these things happen VII

[789]

Just looked that up and read, not something that I believe would help with her. But thanks for the suggestion.

[789]

Well I might have been right, I went to the four court houses she would of had to use to file, nothing listed. According to the lady, she said if it was filed last week it would have already been listed in the files.

[sadhearted]

Hmmmm.... You know her better then anyone. Why would she tell you she had if she hadn't? To see what your reaction would be?

I hate the mind games.

[789]

Now for a funny little tidbit my wife told me today. She called because she needed a ride. We did not talk about ourselves or our relationship, but relationship issues came up, all by her and I don't think they were the stories she wanted to actually have heard.
1. A man we both know had an affair about 3-4 months ago, wife kicked him out, changed the locks and filed for divorce. She had a change of heart and they are working on getting back together as of last saturday.
2. Another couple we both know split up and the divorce was getting close to being final in August. They moved into a place together this weekend.
3. My boss has been seperated for almost a year, his wife was major MLC, he moved home this weekend also, my wife works for same company and that is how she found that out.

It was funny that she brought up these to me, she said she could not believe that so many couples were turning around and working on being back together.
She never said it, but once again I could tell that she was in the hhmm thinking mode again.

[789]

Hmmmm.... You know her better then anyone. Why would she tell you she had if she hadn't? To see what your reaction would be?

That I am not sure of, but she did say filed, not going to file. Maybe it is a mind game to see if I would have broke down and cried or got angry at her, which I did, but not till I had left.

I hate the mind games.

I second that statement.

[sadhearted]

So she's sitting there saying she can't believe so many are getting back together and I'm sitting here wondering if that really happens after ready so many of the recent posts.

It's good that you kept your emotions in check in front of her.

They suck!

[789]

I didnt't say a word other than good for them and their families. I so much wanted to point out that hope is always right around the corner and if they all could so could we, maybe I should have but I just bit my tongue and listened.

[789]

sadhearted,
It is these real stories of people I know, people who I have been out with, too their houses. To see actual things change around and in many ways, quiet possible worse than my own situation and getting back together. With these things happening, it is impossible for me just to say that it will never happen.
I think I need to stay on my current path and not worry about it or her, if I change that I will just be a basket case again.

[PMA_Baby!]

Good to hear 789. Hope we hear about your success story one of these days.

[789]

I do too.
But at current time I am not putting much into it even if I should. I do want to stay married but I need to let it be and let her take the reigns of what she is going to do. It is not that she goes back in forth about what she says or does, it is that it has become a daily ritual for her that I cannot handle. So good or bad days from her aren't going to mean what they did even a couple of weeks ago. A consistent pattern over the long term is what I will start paying attention about.