Hi KLM My H has another OW and with it so fresh I know how you are feeling and I know how hard it is not to want to contact the OW and give them what-for! I'll share with you what my C said and what keeps me sane along with this board and supportive friends - what is important here is making yourself loveable - loveable for you, for your children (not sure if you have any) and for your H. If he sees a mad, bitter "shrew" who lashes out or sees a loving, supportive, happy woman, who do you think he will gravitate to. Also, for you and you alone, make yourself loveable and don't do something that long term you are going to feel bad about. And lashing out, calling the OW will not solve anything. Right now focus on you, that's the only thing you can control.
