Now granted your feelings aren't too reliable. But neither is the reactions of other people.
Yeah because "they" are human just like us
What's left? A whole lot of inference and tentative conclusions, right?
Well for some things you have to find little concrete facts. For me and the weight thing obviously how my clothes fit and the scale are pretty good objective measurements. The same with finances - I might feel stressed about money but I can objectively see my 401k investment and automatic savings deposit which are reminders that my overall financial picture is good even when I make a small blunder along the way. Also while looking to others reactions is risky, I do have some friends I can count on to keep me on an even keel. One in particular is seeing a therapist so we talk about her sessions and her issues along with mine. Fascinating stuff too. her guy is a genius - I did see him twice and would have kept going if I could have. Also it's amazing to find out that we all have our issues to work through.
Don't let all this positive talk fool you though. I am just as capable of feeling like a complete failure as anyone. And I can have my own irrational breakdowns. Thursday night my luggage got lost and I stood in the airport crying. The constant travel has just gotten me to the point I cannot handle things as well as I have in the past. And that is a fact. But I am trying to muddle my way through while I decide if this job is something I can handle after this project is over in 5 weeks.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus