Thanks to everyone for your comments & insights. H sister proceeded to kick him out, telling him a few days ago he had a week to find a place. I have been very supportive, even going on-line and finding some condos immediately available - ugh! Gave them to him at D soccer last night and we actually had a nice time. I tried "loving" sentences which my C recommended - "Thank you for being such a great father to our D, it really means a lot to her and to me to know you are always there for her". These seemed to make him comfortable and they were from the heart so I felt good too. Today he called me and his S came downstairs this morning and said "I am not comfortable with you here, I want you out now." I was shocked and saddened as even though she may disagree with him walking out, you still should support your family. I validated his feelings and told him I would help anyway I could. I also said if you can't find a place today, you are welcome in the house until you find a place. No strings, no issues. I don't want you to feel abandoned or without options. And you know what - I meant it. It will be hard for me from one sense but I'm OK with it as I really want him to feel I am open and responsive to his needs and support him no matter what. I also really don't want him feeling out on the street and more lost than he is already feeling and I want him to know home is a safe place for him so to do that I need to show it. He seemed relieved when I said it and was appreciative. He called again later in the morning just to say he was looking at a place this afternoon so we'll see. I am having lots of pep talks with myself about focusing on my health (mental & physical) and my D and not on what is he going to do, will this work out, the OW and all the other crazy thoughts that can spiral through my mind. I also ordered DR online as it is not in our local bookstore chain. I also am going to the MC for me and think I will have her for IC and when we decide to go back to MC (how's that for positive), we will find a new one we both are comfortable with.
