Don't over think it! Maybe it's more about her. Maybe she's been reading here or a similar site and SHE feels a need to make sure you understand that her crankiness is not due to you. You don't have to own every issue:)
I don't? Really? But what if I miss a sign that she's not happy and then everything goes to hell?
(Duh! Everything's not going to go to hell. She'll stick around or she won't, and you'll come up with a way to deal with either outcome. Have you learned nothing?)
OK, it's not all about me. I shouldn't pressure her to feel better or to reassure me. She should be able to get through whatever it is without me making it worse by putting her on the spot. If she's actually not happy with me, it's up to her to tell me... it's not up to me to read her mind, it's just up to me to stay awake, observe without probing or pressuring, and listen to her when she feels like talking. And put a lid on my constant craving for physical contact... no one can be expected to want to touch and hold me and be held all the time.
I proactively make a positive move which actually bears fruit (flat, rectangular, green fruit) and end up feeling more insecure? WTF?
Originally Posted By: fearless
Seriously I tend to spell out my feelings like that too and it's not because Raven needs it spelled out but more because I like to be clear.
I do that too sometimes (i.e., when I'm not irrationally afraid of being clear), and somehow I don't quite believe it when I see her doing it. Weird.
Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 07/24/0706:12 PM.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
